Learning how to feel is part of recovery from any addiction and learning how to argue productively has a positive impact on relationship satisfaction. Journal of Sex & Marital Therapy, October 2000.

According to a new study topping the list of needs that appear to bring happiness are autonomy (feeling that your activities are self-chosen and self-endorsed), competence (feeling that you are effective in your activities), relatedness (feeling a sense of closeness with others) and self-esteem. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, February 2001.

Results from a national survey of people aged 18 to 59 years indicate that sexual dysfunction was common among women (43%) and men (31%). Journal of the American Medical Association, 1999.

From birth throughout life each person develops a unique "sexual story" influenced by culture, gender, family of origin, and personal experience. The "story" takes on the beliefs and meanings that each person attributes to their sexuality. Couples must negotiate their personal "sexual stories" as they develop their own style of sexual communication and activity. This is an ongoing process as everyday life problems may interfere with intimacy and sexuality. American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

Children closely monitor their parents' relationship. The lack of displayed affection is just as important as the affection displayed between parents. As Henri Nouwen cites, "...it is not primarily the attention paid to the child, but the unrestricted love of the parents for each other..." When parents have a solid emotional and physical relationship, the household ambiance makes everyone more available to one another. Children may complain about parents getting "mushy," but they are being blessed with a wonderful template that serves well in later life. American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy.

"80% of those who divorce during an affair ultimately regret their decision." From the book, Triangles: Facts you need to know about affairs. By Staheli and Lana, Seattle, Staheli, Inc.

Moving from isolation to a healthy connection with others is one of the most challenging tasks of recovery from any addiction. In the Surgeon General's report as far back as 1964, social isolation was a more significant cause of mortality than reported deaths from cigarette smoking.

Individuals who feel more love and support and are connected with others have fewer health problems and live longer, independent of diet, smoking, exercise, cholesterol, family history, and other standard risk factors according to a Yale study presented in Love and Survival, Eight pathways to Intimacy and Health, by Dr. Ornish.

A 14-year study of 100 men and women between 55 and 80 years old showed that those with trusting personalities stayed healthier and lived longer. Journal of Behavioral Medicine, Vol. 21:6.